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Im a hospice nurse in Dallas, and Golden Gate remains a common choice among the families we care for, so much so, that I had no idea the scandals surrounding this FH. Good to know when assisting families with making their final choice for their loved one. Love your videos and the work you've done to help normalize the inevitable we all face, and advancing death acceptance in our society.

as someone who grew up in dallas my only request after death is please don’t take me to golden gate 😭

32:30 When my family dog died, we asked the vet to have him cremated. They called as soon as it was done, and multiple times after to ensure that we had received the message that his remains were ready and to remind us. Even so, due to unrelated circumstances, it was over 6 months before we were able to go to try and get them, and we were not in communication with them during this time. When we finally went and asked apologetically, fully expecting them to not have them anymore, they were completely kind and understanding and reassured us that they never get rid of ashes, and we got them. The absolute cavernous gulf between the professionalism, compassion, and respect between our situation (regarding, reminder, a dog) and that FUCKING travesty is genuinely so shocking and cartoonishly horrific I genuinely do not know how to process this information I feel like I'm losing my mind

Im a hospice nurse in Dallas, and Golden Gate remains a common choice among the families we care for, so much so, that I had no idea the scandals surrounding this FH. Good to know when assisting families with making their final choice for their loved one. Love your videos and the work you've done to help normalize the inevitable we all face, and advancing death acceptance in our society.

as someone who grew up in dallas my only request after death is please don’t take me to golden gate 😭

My biggest problem with "Best Funeral Ever" is that it sounds like it functioned as advertising/PR for Golden Gate, which means more opportunities for Golden Gate to then traumatize other grieving families with their ("alleged") bad practices.

Being reduced, in death, to a single thing I loved while alive is my own personal nightmare.

32:30 When my family dog died, we asked the vet to have him cremated. They called as soon as it was done, and multiple times after to ensure that we had received the message that his remains were ready and to remind us. Even so, due to unrelated circumstances, it was over 6 months before we were able to go to try and get them, and we were not in communication with them during this time. When we finally went and asked apologetically, fully expecting them to not have them anymore, they were completely kind and understanding and reassured us that they never get rid of ashes, and we got them. The absolute cavernous gulf between the professionalism, compassion, and respect between our situation (regarding, reminder, a dog) and that FUCKING travesty is genuinely so shocking and cartoonishly horrific I genuinely do not know how to process this information I feel like I'm losing my mind

The broad strokes of that wedding funeral were actually lovely (mixing their ashes? Genuinely a beautiful thing for their family) I wish they’d been able to have that without all the exploitation that was attached.

"Pimp My Funeral"

I just wanted to share that I used to work at a movie theater and we hosted a funeral once. A church rented one theater every Sunday morning (before we started running movies for the day). One of the parishioners was a homeless man and he passed away. The church wanted to give him a proper funeral but the funds they had raised wouldn’t cover everything so they asked if we would allow it, we even waived the rental fee. The funeral home brought the casket in and out of the emergency exit doors for easy movement. A friend of his put together a digital slide show that was displayed on the screen. It went really well, considering no one involved had ever done a funeral in a movie theater before. If anyone wondered, we were also the venue for an employee’s wedding ceremony. I think they did a small party at someone’s house afterwards, but the bride had wanted to get married in a particular outdoor area. However, as the day approached she got so worried about rain that she asked if she could get married in a theater. She took a photo of the spot she wanted as her backdrop and we put it on the screen. My boss joked the we should add weddings and funerals to the flyers for theater rentals!

We had a Viking funeral for my dad. He had always wanted a burning Viking boat and the prayers for welcoming a warrior to Valhalla. Think The 13th Warrior. A friend of mine found a Viking boat kit at Barns and Noble, and my daughter, his favorite, and only, granddaughter built it. We launched the boat in my swimming pool with a bit of his ashes, and everyone there chanted the prayer as the boat burned, sailing across the pool. After, we held a Viking wake and dinner. My dad got his wish, and I know he’s enjoying his afterlife in Valhalla. Yah, we all laugh and cry every time we think of that day. Love you dad!

32:30 When my family dog died, we asked the vet to have him cremated. They called as soon as it was done, and multiple times after to ensure that we had received the message that his remains were ready and to remind us. Even so, due to unrelated circumstances, it was over 6 months before we were able to go to try and get them, and we were not in communication with them during this time. When we finally went and asked apologetically, fully expecting them to not have them anymore, they were completely kind and understanding and reassured us that they never get rid of ashes, and we got them. The absolute cavernous gulf between the professionalism, compassion, and respect between our situation (regarding, reminder, a dog) and that FUCKING travesty is genuinely so shocking and cartoonishly horrific I genuinely do not know how to process this information I feel like I'm losing my mind

Figthting with the Registrar is so real. Or spending hours on the phone trying to get the death certificate signed, or someones ex wife showing up after being asked specifically not to come. The reality of a funeral home is actually pretty crazy without making stuff up. I definitely don't believe there is a body in those caskets. Especially considering if you even breathe on the hinges wrong they never open right again.

I have to comment on the toothlessness of the TFSC... I worked in a place that was absolutely filthy, and incredibly busy. It was something I brought up many times, and was basically repeatedly told to put up or shut up. I thought that, when the facility license came up for renewal and reinspection, something might be done, but no. As long as someone filled out the paper that claimed things were cleaned, and there was enough air flow to cling a tissue to an exhaust vent (but not enough to keep you from choking while doing cavity injection), A+, gold stars all around. Nevermind the blood everywhere, just a part of doing business I guess? The building is older than OSHA so I was made to understand they've just been grandfathered in on some things, like the flooring requirements. The only people who could make that place change are management putting in the proper SOPs and failing that, the LEGISLATIVE BODY THAT IS SUPPOSED TO OVERSEE THEM. There's a long chain of people with the power to affect change but nobody cares. This is due in large part that because the facility is *so fcking massive*, they literally can't shut down without a logistical nightmare. At max capacity, they've got over 150 bodies, and not enough overflow facilities to accommodate moving/holding them. The cost to move them and the disruption in services would massively affect their bottom line. So, filthy is fine. I couldn't take it anymore and left. I loved my job but I couldn't do it anymore and it's like speed running a burn out to start your career in a mortuary that handles over 10k cases a year. It's wild that the bodies were the least disgusting part of the job, even the worst of them.

Im a hospice nurse in Dallas, and Golden Gate remains a common choice among the families we care for, so much so, that I had no idea the scandals surrounding this FH. Good to know when assisting families with making their final choice for their loved one. Love your videos and the work you've done to help normalize the inevitable we all face, and advancing death acceptance in our society.

My biggest problem with "Best Funeral Ever" is that it sounds like it functioned as advertising/PR for Golden Gate, which means more opportunities for Golden Gate to then traumatize other grieving families with their ("alleged") bad practices.

If I had a nickel for every reality TV show that depicted a business that was eventually revealed to have engaged in shady or outright criminal activity I'd have at least a roll of nickels.

I agree with Mike! There's no such thing as "closer" and I hate that term. My mama has been gone 48 years and every day I think of her and miss her so much. Great interview, Scott!

I agree. Death has no closure.

In the Philippines many of the deceased are brought to their homes in a beautiful setting for a week or more giving everyone the opportunity to pay their respects. A BIG SALUTE of respect for these 2 men❤. Please repost the Story about Mr. Schneid. That needs to be told again. Mr. Steen I miss my mom everyday too.❤ You are correct sir. There is no such thing as CLOSURE.

I love this. She was given the right to mourn and to deal with something so hard to live through.

In a way it helped her to emotionally accept and let go of her arm and grief. Others may not understand how hard it is emotionally when you lose a limb. She's young. She found a unique way to deal with her grief and accept it. She's quite smart. ❤

❤she had closure people need that.

I keep asking… Who declared the victims dead and beyond help… Kathy came by în the evening… The morons in the house claimed not to know what happened just that one ‘friend’ was ‘unconscious’… Was an ambulance called? Who declared them dead on the spot?! Payne?!

According to a search: Latah county doesn’t operate a full service morgue facility…..Autopsies: During cases such as the 2022 University of Idaho homicides, the coroner released autopsy results that were completed outside the immediate county facility, notes a KLEW news article. Local Funeral Services: Local funeral homes, such as Short's Funeral Chapel in Moscow, provide funeral and cremation services and often manage the storage of deceased individuals in the area, according to their website. So I don’t think it’s anything nefarious that the bodies were taken to a funeral home vs morgue since there wasn’t one.

Bodies going to a funeral home is standard practice for small jurisdictions especially when they don’t do autopsies themselves. It not something to be alarmed about.

Unfortunately, this wasn't uncommon back during those times.

We all need to remember and never forget the way we have been treated for many years when they need us they call us to go to war but if we get hurt or die there is zero recognition for our sacrifices , so when the next war comes around show your kids what the outcome will be for there sacrifice

My Question to that Pathetic Funeral director would be...If this man paid the #ULTIMATE #SACRIFICE for His COUNTRY...& fought Bravely for the U.S. what the F**K would it matter #WHAT#COLOR his skin was?